This is from the poet Melanie…it’s terrific
My mother was a wee thing. She was about five feet three, maybe four inches tall and she was, um, compliant and a push over. She did what she could to keep things calm and running as smoothly as possible, which wasn’t easy, since my Italian father was demanding and selfish and I was, to use her own words, “A brat.” Anyway, she fed my father, which did absolutely nothing to add a single pound to his lean frame, but it kept him sleepy and contained. Believe me when I say dinner was on the table the second the garage door went up. He came in, washed his hands and sat down to eat.
My father never raised a hand to my mother. I never saw him do anything to her that would even suggest violence. He wouldn’t think of hitting a woman, an animal, or child, other than me. He went for me now and then, because I drove him insane, when he actually recognized that I was there, that is, but my tiny mother (my father was six feet three inches tall), would jump in front of him, hold her arms out to the side, usually in a doorway, and say, “RUN.” I ran. So, he never got me. Came close once, but my mother and his sister stopped him. I stayed away from him, not because I was afraid of him, I wasn’t, I stayed away from him because I couldn’t stand him and he knew it.
But I was cleaning today and thinking about all the women I know who were beaten and hurt by their fathers and I suddenly realized that my mother protected me with her entire being. She never would have let him touch me. She wasn’t afraid of him and she would have done anything to stop him from hitting me. I never understood that. She never stood up to him, never, even when I begged her to do so. But for me, she put her body in front of him and said, “NO!” How could I not have understood that before today? She was so small, compared to him. I could see him standing over her, his face filled with anger, his hands balled into fists and she would not move. She knew he wouldn’t hit her, but it didn’t matter, not really, she would do anything to stop him from hitting me. I never thanked her for that. I just ran out of the house, or upstairs to my grandmother’s and locked the door, until he calmed down. It didn’t happen often, maybe just a few times, over the years, because I wouldn’t even sit in the same room he was in, so I rarely saw him. Yet every single morning, he came into my bedroom, while I was still asleep, and woke me when he kissed me on the cheek before he went to work.
My mother told me that he changed after I was born. He didn’t like having her attention taken away from him, so basically, he was just jealous. Whatever.
But my wee mom, standing in front of my furious father was really something to see, for the two seconds that I saw them, before I ran away. I’ll thank her next time I see her and I’m sure we’ll both laugh about it, because it was funny, at least to me, and then she’ll be on her own, because if she ever comes back with him, I won’t be with her to see it. I told him that when he was dying. I know he heard me, even if he was unconscious. Never coming back with him again.
Anyway, mom was tougher than I thought/remembered and now I see her wearing a superhero cape, pushing big guys around and saving the world. Yeah, I think she could do that. She could save the world. You don’t have to be big to take a stand. You just have to know the right thing to do and then do it.
One of the things I like about Harley Quinn is her LOVE for animals. Well that and she’s crazy and tough as nails.
WONDER WOMAN
picture from: Free Clip Art
Female superheroes can save the world, take care of themselves, think, plan, act, be independent, kick-ass, stand alone, fight back, work together, be strong, get the bad guys, generally take care of business and be brave. Positive images of females standing on their own two feet, and taking names, is empowering for females of ALL ages. Female superheroes don’t need to be rescued and carried around by their men, they have each other’s backs.
We need strong role models for girls, so they grow up to be confident, intelligent and ready to take on whatever comes their way.
Here’s some good new…Toys R Us just put out this brand new line of FEMALE SUPERHEROES for girls. The Superheroes are wonderful. There’s Wonder Woman, Bat Girl, Super Girl, and many more. Prices vary, depending on size of the superhero. The thing is…if you don’t buy them, these wonderful toys for girls will disappear. If girls are not TAUGHT about the strong females who save the world, companies will stop making them. It’s up to US to make sure that strong, clever, brilliant females are represented and available to girls. If we don’t want it to be a male dominated world then WE HAVE TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. This is a step in the right direction.
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on September 3, 2016