In spite of what some people think, or may say, we’re in this life alone, even if we’re together. It can’t be any other way, since we’re individuals and not co-joined unless you’re a Siamese twin, and even then things will be different for each person. Each brain is different from every other brain.
I’m always amazed when parents are surprised at the way their kids turn out. They seem to believe that because of the way they have raised them, they should be this or that, forgetting that they are beings who came here with an innate personality, and they will be who they want to be unless brutally, or guiltily, forced to become something they are not. (That, my gentle readers, was a run-on sentence). If forced, or manipulated, people can often be unhappy until they die. It seems to me that we should look at our babies and, after thinking OMG WHAT HAVE I DONE, we should love them, and with gentle and loving guidance, watch what they become.
All those studies on only children, middle children, first borns and the “baby,” are just ways to get grant money. And isn’t an only child always a first born and the baby? Anyway, not all those stereotypes apply to most kids. There is no group that is all one way, or another. Not all middle children are anything but middle children. Not the oldest, not the youngest…duh. What if there are ten middle children? What about them? It’s all busy work as far as I’m concerned.
It’s like saying all Italians are like Al Capone, but with less charisma and fewer dead bodies around them.
I think there should be books on DIVERSITY, not SAMENESS. A book on how different all kids are from each other, no matter their birth order. Why are there no books on that? Like why is there a Pentagon building, but no BUILDING FOR PEACE? It’s a self-fulling prophesy. The so called experts tell us what we’re supposed to see in a middle child, or the “baby,” and we see it. “Oh, she’s a great success because she’s an Only child.” I don’t think that’s good for anyone and we grow into our stereotypes because people keep putting us there.
We focus on the negative and useless things, if you ask me. I realize the way to get grant money is to set up a study/experiment, but whether or not goldfish can get drunk, or middle children, or the “baby,” turns out to be like all the other middle children or babies, seems insane, especially since that stuff produces all the STEREOTYPES and LABELS.
Maybe it’s just me. I think we need to concentrate on different things. Things like overhauling the educational system, a $35 an hour minimum LIVING wage, an END TO VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN, CHILDREN AND ANIMALS, or an end to WAR. Why can’t we do studies on those things? That would be money well spent.
Oh, wait, those things will NEVER be studied, or changed, because the status quo needs those things to feed the RICH. Better stick to the meaningless stupidity, so the 1% greedy people can keep making money on the dead and wounded and the sad and overlooked middle child.
Just stuff I was thinking about today.