Always looking over our shoulders…
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Okay, so…one more thing.
Something that has not been discussed. How many MEN, husbands, significant others, will stay with a woman who is forced to have a child because of rape. Will HE be happy to raise, educate and want that child? Will he treat that child as HIS own?
No one talks about the AFTER EFFECTS of such a law. Some men will definitely opt out. What will it do to relationships in general? I doubt that this ever came up in the supreme’s discussion because they were too busy finding ways to punish women. But MEN are an issue. ECONOMICS is DEFINITELY an issue. Will the supremes pay to educate and care for the child? Aren’t the supremes RESPONSIBLE for a child they force to be born against the will of the mother? Or are men expected to do that?
How many single mothers will this law produce? How many unwanted, unloved children? How many more orphanages will we need? How many woman will see the rapist every time she looks at the child that was forced upon her through violence? Where will the supremes be then?
I think these are real issues. Men need to ask themselves how they’ll feel about their government forcing their wives and girlfriends to have someone else’s kid, that they will be expected to raise and pay for. Remember how easy it is for men to walk away from their own children and never pay child support. Good luck with having them pay for one he gets from the rape of his wife.
How much social disruption this will cause? How many divorces. But if you’re only out to punish and control women, I guess those things aren’t important.
The hardship this unjust law will cause are far reaching. The toll it will take has yet to be determined.
Okay, so…
I just talked to my granddaughter a little while ago. She said she’s afraid to go out alone. Everything she sees and hears, tells her more women are being raped, or murdered. Men are breaking into houses and not caring who sees them. She said, it’s terrible. So many women are afraid. No place is safe. She said she only goes out when her boyfriend is with her (they live together). She stopped swimming, taking walks or doing any of the things she loves to do.
It makes me sick. Really sick, to hear her say things like that. I’m SO enraged that women are forced, by evil and hateful men, to live like prisoners. Living in constant fear is unhealthy and it KILLS DREAMS. It literally kills females, of course, but no one really seems to care. If they cared, something would be done to STOP it from CONSTANTLY HAPPENING. Fear destroys their innocence, their trust, their freedom and their hopes and DREAMS. FEAR makes the lives of women SMALL.
There was NOTHING I could say to make her feel better without putting her in DANGER. I couldn’t tell her NOT TO BE AFRAID. I couldn’t tell her she would be OKAY. I couldn’t tell her that NOTHING WOULD HAPPEN TO HER. All I could tell her was that I understood and that all women live under the constant threat of violence.
I hate this. Everyone female alive should hate this and even those who are dead should hate this. And every single male, who is not violent and insane, should hate this as well.
This is the world we ALLOW to exist. This is the never ending war between women and men. This is the true and played out hatred of an entire gender, by the other half.
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Wheels, gears and cogs…a poem
the wheels
and gears
turn
but we don’t get
any smarter
not about what matters
we build better
THINGS
like guns
and other weapons
instead of building
TRUST
KINDNESS
and
EQUALITY
sadly
I don’t think
our species
is capable
of those things
on a grand scale
we are death
to living things
as the wheels
and cogs
gears
and guns
keep getting made
because that’s
what’s important
to the men in charge
to the men
we have allowed
to threaten
and destroy
all life
on this planet
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Okay, so…
We live in a completely patriarchal world. Everything we think, see, or even believe, is male. They run the show and…if you’re thinking...here she goes again…that’s exactly what patriarchy wants you to think. Women have been brainwashed into thinking that what they’ve been told is real, when it’s NOT. They have been taught to believe that what people like me say about THEM, makes me a bitch, or a nagging bitch, for even bringing this up…again.
When I write short stories where a woman stabs a man, I can assume that at least one, or two, women frowns upon it, or think that I’m bitter, a man hater, or any number of things, and that’s fine with me. I’ve been called a lot worse, believe me.
The thing is, women have been taught to protect men, to let them get away with beating, raping, and killing us, and even putting us in houses to work and raise kids, while they enjoy the world outside and have all the freedom they want. But hey…that’s what THEY want us to do, and they have made the world in such a way, that women believe that’s what we’re SUPPOSED to do too. It’s NOT. We get the jobs they don’t want. Remember that.
As for writers, take poet Charles Bukowski (he’s dead now). He’s vile and treats women like GARBAGE, things to be used and called disgusting names. He’s pretty much a moron. People read him. They love him, especially men. But what female poets write about men the same way? See, women aren’t SUPPOSED to do that to men. They aren’t ALLOWED to write that way. When they do, the punishment can be severe. Their career destroyed, name calling shows up immediately…man hater (which I love because no one calls male writers, women haters…EVER). And, critics will pretty much destroy women with words. Women cannot hate men the way men can freely hate women. It’s simply not allowed.
Men do the most horrendous things to women in real life, in books, in films, in VIDEO GAMES, pretty much everywhere they can, but women, are supposed to be NICE, or at least SHUT THE FUCK UP!
We really aren’t ALL nice. We’ve simply been silenced, written out of history, and pretty much ERASED. That might be okay with you, but it’s not okay with me.
Men are in control and they don’t want us to have any power at all. So, they make sure we don’t have it. You can tell because you can name the handful of women whose names you might recognize (most of them will be ancient). Even Mary Cassatt, the only female, American Impressionist, isn’t mentioned 99% of the time for even BEING THERE, let alone working the same way the MEN were. The MEN get all the credit and MUSUEM SPACE.
So, if I kill off a few men, now and then, I think it’s only fair. I don’t torture them, lock them in a room in a basement, beat them, chain them to anything, rape or cut them, I don’t do all the things men do to women, so I think I’m allowed to stab a guy who won’t let a woman have her tea in a cafe, at least once in awhile.
Women are just now learning about their own herstory. It’s sketchy because a lot of information was lost, or never written down. Plus women’s names have been lost, having taken the names of their husband. ERASED.
Here’s the thing. Women writers are locked into two positions. They can write stories that are acceptable to patriarchy, or they can write how they feel and be condemned as a shrew, and destroyed. See, that’s how men have us shut us up, with no way out. Fortunately, there are more options for women today, but it’s still difficult and most women won’t read what other women are writing, if it’s about serious issues, instead of novels, romance and otherwise. Women don’t want to know, or else they just don’t care. Maybe, they just don’t want to deal with the fact that their lives have been stolen from them and they didn’t even realize it. And, most women just won’t believe it. They also won’t believe that things could be, or should be, any different.
The overwhelming majority of men do not read books written by women. They don’t have to. Boys don’t want to read books they believe are written for girls. That’s because females don’t matter, don’t count, and are despised. Believe it or not, it’s still true. Girls and women read books written by men all the time. We should stop that. We should support women authors and see what happens to male authors, when WOMEN STOP READING THEM. Maybe that will wake them up a little, since more women than men actually read. I very rarely buy books written by men, unless they are about science, or a particular artist. I always buy books written by women. I wish I could get women to stop supporting men, so they could see what kind of power we actually have in the marketplace. But see, patriarchy has taught us that male is better, more intelligent, blah, blah, blah…but it’s NOT. Women are ALWAYS taught to support men, especially over other women. Gag!
Anyway, no one will care. They rarely do. Try getting a man in your life to read your favorite female author. Not a romance novel, or Pride and Prejudice, something violent and fast. Good luck.
Oh, and it’s not just female writers, it’s artists too. It’s in everything. Including how we dress, stand POSE, smile, talk and look.
So, that’s what I’ve been thinking about today. How about you?
Rethinking Life 
Written
on January 11, 2020