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Species…words

it doesn’t matter
what species
every living thing
should be treated
with respect
and kindness
EVERY
species
has the right
to LIVE
and not be
seen as food
clothing
or car seats
all of us
should stop
killing each other
for any reason
always
choose
KINDNESS

 

Photo:  Honza Reznik
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Kindness is everything…

Free Be Kind Written on the Person's Forearm Stock Photo

Photo:  Polina Tankilevitch
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Okay, so..life and death.

red roses in bloom during daytime

People re always writing about how precious life is, how wonderful it is to be alive.  I just read something by a physicist the other day, who wrote that very thing.

But the truth is, life doesn’t seem precious, or wonderful, to a lot of people.  Suicide is always on the rise.  Torture, terror, suffering, poverty, war, starvation, no clean water, or medical availability…and all the rest, don’t always make for a precious, or wonderful, life for millions of people.  I’m not saying that people in dire straights aren’t happy, because they certainly can be, but as a whole, I think a lot of humans are afraid and miserable, living on the edge.  Depends on your circumstances, a lot of the times.  Not always, of course.

We have absolutely nothing TO compare life with.  Death might be fantastic.  A new start, away from here.  If the NDE (Near Death Experiencers) are right, and there are a LOT of them, then no one wants to come back here.  They FIGHT to stay on the other side.  So, what’s everyone talking about…this precious and wonderful life?  Again…compared to what?

When you sleep, you don’t long to be awake so you can live your precious life.  You don’t feel anything, unless you have a nightmare.

This isn’t a great place, unless you’re into violence and destruction.  Sure there’s beauty all around us, at least for the moment, until we destroy it.  The Ukraine was beautiful, now it is simply dirt and dead bodies.  That’s what our species does.  And people can argue with that, but it’s still the truth.  There used to be peace time, between wars, until greed took over, now war is a constant.

Horrible things happen to people everyday.  Some fight to stay alive, other say, “I’m done,” and check out.  Still others are afraid to leave, but they’ll go anyway…no choice.

If people really believed that life was precious, or wonderful, they wouldn’t allow wars to exist.  They wouldn’t allow violence against animals, women or children to exist.  It’s only because people don’t really believe that life is precious, or wonderful, that those things are allowed to continue, well, that and the fact that men are in charge and the current belief is that some lives are way more precious than others.

If we believed that life was precious, no one would be hungry, or discriminated against.  Equality would be the only thing that mattered.

Life, like everything else, is relative.  But if life is only precious on a personal basis, then it’s just more of the same.  The real problem is that people don’t like each other.  Not if they don’t think alike.  That, and the fact that greed and power can destroy entire countries and maybe the world itself.  We will never get along, unless something so horrendous happens, that we’re forced to put aside our differences and all ten of us have to work together until it’s over.  Studies have shown that people work well together until a crisis is over, after which they go back to disliking each other agin.  So what hope is there, on a grand scale?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not actually writing about precious lives, I’m just saying that we should stop writing about it, since it’s just another saying, that might be written on a piece of wood.

A couple days ago, a woman went jogging.  They found her body later.  They caught the guy who did it.  He just got out of jail after serving 20 years, for doing the same thing, I guess.  He did it again…right away.  Another dead woman.  Women’s lives aren’t all that precious, or wonderful.  If they were, men wouldn’t keep raping, beating and killing us.

And now…a few words about kindness.

The reason kindness can make some people cry, or is always remembered, is because it’s so rare.  Kindness, is not the norm, so when it happens, people can become overwhelmed.  It’s not that a lot of people aren’t kind…they are…kindness takes place all the time, but it’s usually surprising and people are grateful for it…because it stands out.  If kindness was common, we would take it for granted, like we do everything else. We can’t help doing that, it’s what we are.

This is a weird place to be, and we have made it exactly what it is.

Hey, I’m just sayin’.

 

Photo:  Julia Kadel
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Pass it on…

Photo:  Andrew Thornebrooke
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Love…a poem

pink Love neon signage

to me
LOVE
means
kindness
consideration
and
thoughtfulness
but mostly
kindness
a lot of good things
fall under that heading
so that’s
what I think
we need a LOT more of
KINDNESS
I’m going to start
spreading more of it
around

 

 

 

Photo:  Shaira Dela Peña
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Love and kindness are natural feelings. Hatred, cruelty, are taught.

toddler hugging siberian husky

Photo:  -drz-
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Important message from…someone. a poem

kindness has nothing to do
with political party lines
religion
institutions
gangs
rival teams
or anything else
kindness is acting
from your heart
without thinking
when the need arises
or when a smile
and a hello
happens on its own
KINDNES
is what can
save the world
not love
not prayers
not hope
or good wishes
kindness
because true kindness
has no agenda
or strings attached
it just is

 

Photo:  Sierra Houk
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Okay, so…

Love, Kindness, Meditation, Non-Judgment

I’ve heard so many stories about women who, when shown a bit of kindness, or consideration, burst into tears or are so grateful, they can barely speak.  Women who are mentally, or physically abused by their partners.

See, here’s the thing:  they shouldn’t be overwhelmed by the rare moment of kindness they get from the mean and thoughtless men in their lives.  Kindness should NEVER be so rare, that it makes people cry.

I remember the story of a woman who, when with a new male in her life, burst into tears because he poured a cup of coffee for her.  That was such a foreign act of kindness in her life, she fell apart.

I think cruelty and hatefulness, meanness, and  lack of respect should be acts that STAND OUT, not kindness.  Unfortunately, those things are common today.

I don’t think any of us should taken generosity and kindness for granted, but I do think that should be the basis of a relationship.  Respect, thoughtfulness, consideration, sharing and all good things, should make up the bond between people who love and care for each other.

So many women are isolated and live in fear.  So many women are told over and over again how worthless they are.  So many women believe the lies they are told by the men they live with.

The world is not a nice place for a lot of people.  In my book, no one should cry because the man she’s with poures her a cup of coffee.  No one.  To be that beaten down, that that simple act, was a kindness she never had, makes me sick.

This is not an unusual story.  It’s just the one I chose to write about.  It’s so simple and deadly.  To live a life without love, respect, compassion and kindness is _____________, you fill in the blank.

 

Love…and what the world needs now.

Friends, Cat And Dog, Pets, Cat, Dog

We need more love in the world.  We need more kindness.  We will never love everyone.  It’s not possible, but I think we can be a bit more kind and polite.  No one can even define what love means.  Ask the billions of people who are divorced about their definitions.

We can be kind to strangers, without loving them.  We don’t have to love people to open a door for them.  Love isn’t something everyone can do, or give, but kindness is. Being polite doesn’t carry any meaning and it’s short term.  We can’t love everyone, and not everyone wants to be loved by others.  That’s an IMPORTANT point.  Many people do not want someone’s love, or attention.  Kindness is a different thing, but even then, people have to be careful not to intrude or over step their bounds.  Every word has its own definition.

We need to be more realistic about what is possible.  Loving everyone is not possible.  It never was and never will be.  We can’t even protect children from their parents.  We can’t actually DO anything, to stop the hatred and violence that is everywhere, so loving everyone is a joke.

We need to come up with better solutions and get real, if we truly want things to change.  We need to forget about loving each other and try for something that’s possible.  Being polite.  Being kind.  And even then…what will we do with those who are filled with hatred and violence?  Those who only want power over others and more for themselves?

Look at it this way.  When someone is simply kind, it can make the news, because it’s that rare.  Think about that.  An act of kindness can be newsworthy, in a world where hatred and violence are the norm.

We need to forget about love and just try to be more polite until we can think of something better.

And, by the way, the cat in the picture could take the dog in a second.  The cat has all the power.  All she has to do is change her mind about being civil, and the dog’s toast.  Just like in human life.  Exactly like in human life.  It’s not the one who has the most toys who wins, it’s the one who has the most power over us.

Okay, so…Compassion, Kindness, and empathy…

Are compassion and empathy real?  Are they possible?  What are they?  What do they mean?  How are they manifested?  Are they learned responses?

I have a button that says:  REALITY IS WHEN IT HAPPENS TO YOU.  I believe that completely. The only things that are real, are the things that are happening to us personally.  Everything else is happening to other people, even other people we care about.

When the same thing happens to two people, they have something in “common,” but that’s about it. Their experiences will have been different, even though the event is the same..  That’s why they have “support” groups…they have them for those who have had similar experiences.  They HAVE those groups because the people who have NOT HAD the same experiences, are not able to understand what the people in those groups have gone through, or are going through.  The people in the group have a better chance of being understood by the rest of the group, than they ever would be by those on the outside.  Those who couldn’t possibly understand what any of them actually went through.

It’s like that with everything.  If we aren’t poor, and never have been, we can’t possibly understand what it’s like to be poor.  All we can do is imagine what it’s like to be terrified and beaten, if it has never happened to us . Empathy doesn’t really exist.  Similar experiences do.

It seems to me that compassion is often very short termed thing.  People see someone begging and feel sorry for the person, give him/her a few dollars, then walk away.  Compassion, if it actually exists, doesn’t necessarily lead to ACTION.  It doesn’t work to change the system of enforced poverty, or racism, sexism, or agism, or anything else.  The person handing out the money, doesn’t HAVE the problem and is free to walk away and think of other things.  Horror at the system and fighting back would help a lot of people, long term, but then we’d have to work together to overthrow the “machine” that keeps people miserable and that’s just not gonna happen.

People get involved with raising money for diseases, or to stop drunk drivers, etc., AFTER they have experienced a loss, or some other horrific incident. REALITY IS WHEN IT HAPPENS TO YOU…kickstarts people into action.  When it happens to you, you finally understand what that thing is.

I think commonality exists between those who have had similar experiences.  There is an immediate understanding between those who have lost a child, or those who have been beaten.  People can look at each other and nod, acknowledging the pain, that others can never understand.

I supposed we have to define our own personal definitions of the words we use. Those definitions will be based on experience, brainwashing, belief and place.

Compassion, if it exists, always seems sad to me. It’s always connected to something terrible and it can easily turn into pity, or some icky kind of thing that serves the person who is supposedly being compassionate, not the one who is having a bad time.

Empathy, to me…is the nod between those people I mentioned before.  Those who have had a shared experience.  They understand what happened, and acknowledge the loss, realizing the experience was different for each one.  If you aren’t part of that group, you can’t have empathy.  It’s impossible.

I think kindness is good for all occasions…good or bad…and for all beings and the planet itself.  It’s a universal thing.

The other words, compassion and empathy, are too heavy, too negative, and can be hurtful, or insulting.  I don’t like them.  I don’t use those words at all.

KINDNESS works for me.

The thing is, all words can get grubby and manipulative when used by bad people.  That’s a big problem for all of us.  Even kindness can be used to cause harm.  Unfortunately, there are far too many bad people, which makes life a living hell for so many others…EVERY SINGLE DAY.

See, that’s the thing…misery and terror, hunger and inequality, violence and all the rest, don’t go away.  They hurt people every minute of every day and it’s only because the people in charge (government), those who just voted themselves ANOTHER RAISE IN PAY, are selfish, greedy, hateful, completely unaffected, tyrants who never think suffering has anything to do with them, even though they are the CAUSE.

We are all guilty of being blind to things that don’t touch us. We can’t possibly be aware of all the problems in the world.  It would be overwhelming.  We wouldn’t even be able to understand all the horrors out there.

But we don’t really work together to stop injustice and violence.  We want someone else to do it.  Women work against other women, brainwashed by a republican, christian system that enslaves and controls them.  Our problems could be easily solved, but they won’t be.  Solving the problems would mean less for the white males who get rich off the suffering of others.  They encourage fear, division, and violence, because that works for them.

There are so many people out there doing wonderful things.  Getting fresh water for villages, helping women survive by teaching them new skills, bringing medicine to those in need.  It’s truly beautiful.  The thing is…why are those things ALLOWED to exist in the first place?  Why do any of us continue to accept the 1% who rule over us and enslave us?  Why don’t we wake up and say, “SCREW YOU.”  All the horrors in the world are caused by the rich, by governments, by greed.  There are more of us than there are of them and yet, we bow and scrape and nothing ever changes.  It’s incredible to me that we are brainwashed by male institutions to fight EACH OTHER for their benefit. And the saddest thing is that people constantly try to work AROUND the systems that have been put in place to keep the ugly status quo up and running.

Anyway, that’s what I was thinking about on this dark dreary morning…waiting for the snow to begin.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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