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Love and kindness are natural feelings. Hatred, cruelty, are taught.

toddler hugging siberian husky

Photo:  -drz-

Important message from…someone. a poem

kindness has nothing to do
with political party lines
rival teams
or anything else
kindness is acting
from your heart
without thinking
when the need arises
or when a smile
and a hello
happens on its own
is what can
save the world
not love
not prayers
not hope
or good wishes
because true kindness
has no agenda
or strings attached
it just is


Photo:  Sierra Houk

Okay, so…

Love, Kindness, Meditation, Non-Judgment

I’ve heard so many stories about women who, when shown a bit of kindness, or consideration, burst into tears or are so grateful, they can barely speak.  Women who are mentally, or physically abused by their partners.

See, here’s the thing:  they shouldn’t be overwhelmed by the rare moment of kindness they get from the mean and thoughtless men in their lives.  Kindness should NEVER be so rare, that it makes people cry.

I remember the story of a woman who, when with a new male in her life, burst into tears because he poured a cup of coffee for her.  That was such a foreign act of kindness in her life, she fell apart.

I think cruelty and hatefulness, meanness, and  lack of respect should be acts that STAND OUT, not kindness.  Unfortunately, those things are common today.

I don’t think any of us should taken generosity and kindness for granted, but I do think that should be the basis of a relationship.  Respect, thoughtfulness, consideration, sharing and all good things, should make up the bond between people who love and care for each other.

So many women are isolated and live in fear.  So many women are told over and over again how worthless they are.  So many women believe the lies they are told by the men they live with.

The world is not a nice place for a lot of people.  In my book, no one should cry because the man she’s with poures her a cup of coffee.  No one.  To be that beaten down, that that simple act, was a kindness she never had, makes me sick.

This is not an unusual story.  It’s just the one I chose to write about.  It’s so simple and deadly.  To live a life without love, respect, compassion and kindness is _____________, you fill in the blank.


Love…and what the world needs now.

Friends, Cat And Dog, Pets, Cat, Dog

We need more love in the world.  We need more kindness.  We will never love everyone.  It’s not possible, but I think we can be a bit more kind and polite.  No one can even define what love means.  Ask the billions of people who are divorced about their definitions.

We can be kind to strangers, without loving them.  We don’t have to love people to open a door for them.  Love isn’t something everyone can do, or give, but kindness is. Being polite doesn’t carry any meaning and it’s short term.  We can’t love everyone, and not everyone wants to be loved by others.  That’s an IMPORTANT point.  Many people do not want someone’s love, or attention.  Kindness is a different thing, but even then, people have to be careful not to intrude or over step their bounds.  Every word has its own definition.

We need to be more realistic about what is possible.  Loving everyone is not possible.  It never was and never will be.  We can’t even protect children from their parents.  We can’t actually DO anything, to stop the hatred and violence that is everywhere, so loving everyone is a joke.

We need to come up with better solutions and get real, if we truly want things to change.  We need to forget about loving each other and try for something that’s possible.  Being polite.  Being kind.  And even then…what will we do with those who are filled with hatred and violence?  Those who only want power over others and more for themselves?

Look at it this way.  When someone is simply kind, it can make the news, because it’s that rare.  Think about that.  An act of kindness can be newsworthy, in a world where hatred and violence are the norm.

We need to forget about love and just try to be more polite until we can think of something better.

And, by the way, the cat in the picture could take the dog in a second.  The cat has all the power.  All she has to do is change her mind about being civil, and the dog’s toast.  Just like in human life.  Exactly like in human life.  It’s not the one who has the most toys who wins, it’s the one who has the most power over us.

Okay, so…Compassion, Kindness, and empathy…

Are compassion and empathy real?  Are they possible?  What are they?  What do they mean?  How are they manifested?  Are they learned responses?

I have a button that says:  REALITY IS WHEN IT HAPPENS TO YOU.  I believe that completely. The only things that are real, are the things that are happening to us personally.  Everything else is happening to other people, even other people we care about.

When the same thing happens to two people, they have something in “common,” but that’s about it. Their experiences will have been different, even though the event is the same..  That’s why they have “support” groups…they have them for those who have had similar experiences.  They HAVE those groups because the people who have NOT HAD the same experiences, are not able to understand what the people in those groups have gone through, or are going through.  The people in the group have a better chance of being understood by the rest of the group, than they ever would be by those on the outside.  Those who couldn’t possibly understand what any of them actually went through.

It’s like that with everything.  If we aren’t poor, and never have been, we can’t possibly understand what it’s like to be poor.  All we can do is imagine what it’s like to be terrified and beaten, if it has never happened to us . Empathy doesn’t really exist.  Similar experiences do.

It seems to me that compassion is often very short termed thing.  People see someone begging and feel sorry for the person, give him/her a few dollars, then walk away.  Compassion, if it actually exists, doesn’t necessarily lead to ACTION.  It doesn’t work to change the system of enforced poverty, or racism, sexism, or agism, or anything else.  The person handing out the money, doesn’t HAVE the problem and is free to walk away and think of other things.  Horror at the system and fighting back would help a lot of people, long term, but then we’d have to work together to overthrow the “machine” that keeps people miserable and that’s just not gonna happen.

People get involved with raising money for diseases, or to stop drunk drivers, etc., AFTER they have experienced a loss, or some other horrific incident. REALITY IS WHEN IT HAPPENS TO YOU…kickstarts people into action.  When it happens to you, you finally understand what that thing is.

I think commonality exists between those who have had similar experiences.  There is an immediate understanding between those who have lost a child, or those who have been beaten.  People can look at each other and nod, acknowledging the pain, that others can never understand.

I supposed we have to define our own personal definitions of the words we use. Those definitions will be based on experience, brainwashing, belief and place.

Compassion, if it exists, always seems sad to me. It’s always connected to something terrible and it can easily turn into pity, or some icky kind of thing that serves the person who is supposedly being compassionate, not the one who is having a bad time.

Empathy, to me…is the nod between those people I mentioned before.  Those who have had a shared experience.  They understand what happened, and acknowledge the loss, realizing the experience was different for each one.  If you aren’t part of that group, you can’t have empathy.  It’s impossible.

I think kindness is good for all occasions…good or bad…and for all beings and the planet itself.  It’s a universal thing.

The other words, compassion and empathy, are too heavy, too negative, and can be hurtful, or insulting.  I don’t like them.  I don’t use those words at all.

KINDNESS works for me.

The thing is, all words can get grubby and manipulative when used by bad people.  That’s a big problem for all of us.  Even kindness can be used to cause harm.  Unfortunately, there are far too many bad people, which makes life a living hell for so many others…EVERY SINGLE DAY.

See, that’s the thing…misery and terror, hunger and inequality, violence and all the rest, don’t go away.  They hurt people every minute of every day and it’s only because the people in charge (government), those who just voted themselves ANOTHER RAISE IN PAY, are selfish, greedy, hateful, completely unaffected, tyrants who never think suffering has anything to do with them, even though they are the CAUSE.

We are all guilty of being blind to things that don’t touch us. We can’t possibly be aware of all the problems in the world.  It would be overwhelming.  We wouldn’t even be able to understand all the horrors out there.

But we don’t really work together to stop injustice and violence.  We want someone else to do it.  Women work against other women, brainwashed by a republican, christian system that enslaves and controls them.  Our problems could be easily solved, but they won’t be.  Solving the problems would mean less for the white males who get rich off the suffering of others.  They encourage fear, division, and violence, because that works for them.

There are so many people out there doing wonderful things.  Getting fresh water for villages, helping women survive by teaching them new skills, bringing medicine to those in need.  It’s truly beautiful.  The thing is…why are those things ALLOWED to exist in the first place?  Why do any of us continue to accept the 1% who rule over us and enslave us?  Why don’t we wake up and say, “SCREW YOU.”  All the horrors in the world are caused by the rich, by governments, by greed.  There are more of us than there are of them and yet, we bow and scrape and nothing ever changes.  It’s incredible to me that we are brainwashed by male institutions to fight EACH OTHER for their benefit. And the saddest thing is that people constantly try to work AROUND the systems that have been put in place to keep the ugly status quo up and running.

Anyway, that’s what I was thinking about on this dark dreary morning…waiting for the snow to begin.










And more kindness and hope…Bored Panda

Texans Are Bringing Farm And Wild Animals Inside To Keep Them Warm During The Cold Wave (19 Pics) 


From: Candy This is so beautiful.

Today is: National Love is kind Day

Cow, Calf, Pasture, Cattle, Nature, Cute
people talk about love and kindness
they set aside special days to celebrate
love and kindness
they write stories
and poetry
about love and kindness
they take photographs
of love and kindness
they tell others to be
loving and kind
but then they put on their
leather shoes
get into their cars with leather seats
and go out to dinner
where they sit down
to a meal
made of dead animals
who never hand a chance to live
and care for their young

so it seems to me
that people should
explain what they mean
when they talk about
love and kindness
they can’t mean
love and kindness for all
not when they look away
as the animals they devour
are tortured and scream with fear
as they are gutted and hung to bleed out
so that they can have a steak
or eat the dead flesh off of another being’s ribs
or the eat the wings of a debeaked and tortured bird

Hey, I’m just sayin’
that people who talk
about love and kindness
but hunt or eat animals
must not believe
that love and kindness
extends to all living beings
but just the ones
who are important to them personally
so love and kindness only goes so far
when it’s convenient
and if you just look around
you can see that the world
isn’t loving and kind
its’s vicious
and deadly
because that’s
the way we choose
to make it



What kind of future will our children be inheriting from us…

Children, Road, Distant, Supportive

It’s strange to me that people so easily accept the violence around them.  The fact that children can no longer play outside without supervision, the fact that they can never be left alone, because they can be taken, violated, or killed, seems insane.  No one talks about the fact that life has become too dangerous to allow kids to play outside alone.  It would appear that adults have already accepted the fact that their kids can’t go out without them.  Children’s freedom has been erased and no one either noticed, cared or realized that it shouldn’t be that way.

It’s the same with everything that’s taken from us.  We just seem to ignore what’s going on.  I think the day will come when we won’t be able to do that.  We won’t be able to ignore the things that are being done to us.  We won’t be able to keep giving our children to the state to fight in wars for greed, we won’t be willing to spend our lives working for less, so the rich get richer, we won’t be willing to stay in our homes because it’s too dangerous to go outside.  We won’t be able to turn away and when that happens, we’ll have to fight back.  It would have been easier if we began fighting years ago, but apparently, we still need to wait for that tipping point.

And those generations behind us should have been stopping what was going on…for us.  Things weren’t as easy to see…back then, however.  Back when wars were the wars to end all wars.  When there were no computers and news wasn’t 24-hours a day.  But we know better.  No one even tries to hide today’s corruption.  They’re proud of it. They’re laughing all the way to the bank at how easy it is to make us work for them.

Meanwhile kids are growing up being monitored from the second they’re born.  No privacy, no freedom.   Rather than build more monitor to track our kids, maybe we should try and make society safe for them.  Maybe for ourselves as well.


Teach kindness…

Goat, Kid, Animal, Goats, Cub, Maternity

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