We are sold a bill of goods every single day in every single way. Some of the stuff we are hit with, makes life more interesting and fun but a lot of things can make life miserable for many people.
Not everyone needs, or wants, to be married. Not everyone needs, or wants, to have children. Those things do not guarantee happiness but can, in reality, create a living hell for some people. But there are Bride magazines and books (noting for the men, of course) and love stories in print, film and music. We are constantly under assault with the things we are told that must have…or be unhappy, suffer and die. None of that’s true, of course, but it is profitable.
People search for true love (Disney songs) and the one person that will “complete,” them. As if individuals aren’t complete in themselves. When you have kids, you have them for the rest of your life. The years between having them and your own death, can be filled with pretty much anything you can imagine, as well as some things you couldn’t have imagined. Kids can be great, the important words are, “CAN BE.” Not all of them are. The point is, if you’re happy having money, traveling, doing whatever you like, then kids may not be for you and that’s okay. It’s not your job to have them. You don’t have to repopulate the earth and really, no one is so special that they have to think they are giving the world a gift by passing on their genetic material. No one cares.
Advertisers study us like rats in a maze. They look for triggers and feed us bits of our favorite cheese, to get us hooked on things that don’t matter in the least. Ads promise things that don’t exist. Weddings, children, true love, blue birds and happily ever afters, are the teases that get people interested. Media is the air brushed version of a life that isn’t real, but looks possible if you only buy whatever the con men are selling.
Maybe if we dialed it down a bit, some people could breath a little easier. Take some of the stress off themselves. Jump off the wheel once in awhile. Maybe. But it’s easy to be sucked into the dream. The money the moneymakers put into figuring out how to addict us to their products is enormous. They are tolling for us, feeding us what we want, or what we think we want, because it’s their job. We don’t have to play their game.
We get to make up what success means to us, what happiness means to us, and we get to decide how we want to spend our own lives. Sometimes we forget that. But it’s the truth. As a group, that gives us a tremendous amount of power. Power that is hidden from us so that we can make OTHER people rich.
Hey, I’m just sayin’.