Okay, so…I’m sorry the responses to your comments are so screwed up. That happens every now and then and I’ve tried to fix it but can’t see to do it. I hope you can figure out the right answers for your comments. Thank you.

Lately I’ve been seeing things on blogs that say…the only place we’re free,is in our thoughts and other such sayings.  But I don’t think that’s true…ever.  I think our thoughts change, as we get older, but our thoughts came from others to begin with…parents, culture, religion, schools, and all the rest.  All we do is build on the thoughts that we inherited from everyone/thing around us.  We learned what was good, bad, right and wrong.  We learned who to love and who not trust.  We learned everything from listening, watching and being told.  Our thoughts have never been our own.  Not for a second.  Not since we were labeled pink or blue and treated accordingly.  As time goes by we might see that what we were taught isn’t what we want to believe, so we discard the original input and write a new script.

It’s impossible, however, to get our culture out of us.  Everything I see, no matter what country I’m in, I see through the eyes of an American.  All of my thoughts are American and everything I see is automatically translated into ‘American.’  I can speak a wee bit of this or that and I might know a wee bit about where I am but I’m an American, a Chicagoan, city person, a female, and that colors every single thing I see or do.  It’s that way for all of us.  Even in America, none of us fit in when we go north or south, east or west.  We can stick out in a crowd, because we are out of place.  Our accents are different, our clothing is different, the way we carry ourselves is different and the look on our faces…well, you get my drift.  We can’t get those nuances out of ourselves, without concentrated effort and even then, they often slip out.  Those things are basic, they are the foundations upon which everything we are, is built.

Something else.  Who we are, where we came from and what we were taught, adds up to our expectations about life and other people, in general.  No one talks about that but what we expect comes from what we have experienced.  A simple example would be ice in our drinks.  A lot of American’s like ice in their drinks.  Other countries don’t serve ice in their drinks because they weren’t TAUGHT to want ice in their drinks. I was at a cafe in Paris and I loved their food.  We had eaten there a lot and one morning I ordered potatoes with breakfast.  The waiter looked at me and said, “What?”  I told him that I wanted potatoes, like the ones that I had had at dinner the night before.  He just stared at me.  Finally he said that he would ask the cook, who said “Non.”  So no potatoes for the crazy American woman.  LOL   If HE was in Chicago, the he would have been asked if he wanted potatoes with his breakfast and what kind.  Expectations…all what we are used to.

It’s funny because what surprises us about others would be normal, if we were born where they were born, or vice versa.   It’s all about environment.  That’s why wars are silly.  People should realize that we’re all the same it’s just the environments that are different.  That makes sense to me.  Maybe not to you, but we are who we are because of our environment and we would be completely different if we were born and raised in some other place.  So we aren’t ANYTHING…we simply BECOME someone because of the things around us.  What’s around us, makes us who we re.

We aren’t free in our thoughts.  We are all products of our environment.   We make changes as we go because our environment changes and new things are offered to us.  Our vision expands and we are no longer children.  We tuck the new things into our repertoire and they come out changed, by who we are.  We are always changing but we are changing from the place where we began.

Our innate personalities also play a part, of course, but it’s just silly to think that we are ever really free from what we first learned when we knew nothing at all.  The things put into us was filtered through our personalities and that’s what started us off.  Cooperative child, rebellious child, meek child, happy child, terrified/shy child…all took what they were given and painted it with their own personality.

That’s who we are.  That’s who everyone is.  We are all simply manifestations of the things around us…of our experiences…and that’s it.  No real freedom, just input and output that is colored by the input.

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15 Responses to Okay, so…I’m sorry the responses to your comments are so screwed up. That happens every now and then and I’ve tried to fix it but can’t see to do it. I hope you can figure out the right answers for your comments. Thank you.

  1. ~Felicia~ says:

    GiGi…. this may well be one of the smartest, practical and true things I have read in a while. That was great, heartfelt writing.❤-F

  2. well said ..we are born empty.. filled up with experience and use that to tell us who are …unless …

    • ~Felicia~ says:

      Some may sadly die empty as well ha? Lacking any real, deep experience to draw on. Only emptyness. That even kind of explains war too. Gigi is an amazing writer.

      • william james is quite helpful on this point

        Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.
        The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.
        The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes.
        Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.
        The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.
        A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices.
        The great use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.
        The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.
        It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome.
        Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second.

      • Thank you so much.

      • Attitude is EVERYTHING, no doubt about it. I’m not into the appreciation part, however. That’s just ego, to me. I think it’s more important to just do your thing and never care what anyone else thinks. I don’t think about making a difference either. Those kinds of thoughts can get in the way. They can make some people try to fulfill them. I think we complicate life with that kind of thinking. We just need to live and not worry about what other people think. And I don’t care about outlasting anything. I don’t care about leaving anything behind. I’ve got this time to live and that’s it. I want to have fun. When I’m gone, the next humans in line will get their turn. None of those other things make sense to me. I don’t look at life that way. I’m not sure how you can be afraid of life either. Life just is. As for prejudice…a great many people don’t even know they are prejudice. Privilege blinds all of us to many things. Everyone is prejudice, it’s built into the system. I really appreciate your wonderful response. Thank you so very much.

      • We teach kids to kill things inside of themselves so that they can go to war and kill others. No one is born a soldier, they are made into soldiers. Everything is done for profit and the greedy guys who send our kids to fight and die, never go to the front lines themselves. They always stay safe. Our leaders are the empty ones who don’t care who lives and dies. They had to tell Bush Jr. to stop smiling when he was talking about the guys coming home in body bags. Meaningless to the men who start the wars. Ike knew what war was like and he hated it. He hated it because he was there, in the fighting. It’s terrible that we allow these things to continue. All government officials should be forced to fight on the front lines of any war they start. No special treatment or protection. They should have to fight just like the other people they send to war. It’s only fair.

    • We are filled up with other people’s thoughts, rules, words, experiences and spend out lives thinking those things are our own thoughts. LOL Then we pass them on to the next generation and it never ends. We continue to read what people said before and keep using their thoughts in our lives. We just keep dragging things along with us. We have to teach kids to never stop asking questions and to never believe what they are told without tearing things apart to see if they stand up to own truth…such as it is.

    • Born empty but with our own personalities through which we translate life.

  3. We are not our thoughts. We are so much more and immersion in our thoughts keeps us bound, stressed and unhappy. 🙏

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