Arthur, Guinevere and Lance…considered to be a great love story and a great betrayal. It is both. So, here’s the thing. They fell in love. Could they have not fallen in love? Does love take away choice? Is love in charge and we must follow? Could they have made different decisions? Should they have made different decisions, for Arthur’s sake? Should they have gone to him and explained what was going on, rather than sneak behind his back? Was lying worse than telling him the truth? Should she have stayed true to Arthur and denied their love for each other? Does it matter that she loved someone else? Could Lance have left? Should he have left? Would their lives be miserable if he had gone, since she had nowhere to go, it was up to him to leave. Once they were together, should they have just stayed together and been happy? Why did they punish themselves by splitting up? Is guilt stronger than love? She went into the convent and he rode away and did what…we’ll never know. What was the point of destroying all three lives? In some of the stories Arthur forgives them and takes Guinevere back…but why? She loved someone else. Lance, his best friend, is horrified by his desire for Arthur’s wife but can’t seem to stop himself from wanting her and sleeping with her. And Arthur, trusting or simply blind?
This is actually a common occurrence. Frida’s husband, Diego (gag), slept with her sister, or should I say that her sister slept with her husband. Frida didn’t speak to her sister for years. Her sister was sorry???? Really? Again…no control over their bodies I guess and her sister knew how Frida felt about his cheating, so did Diego who was an idiot…name calling is allowed in this case. Either way, people you love will screw you over, time and time again (pun intended), even if your a king, or an artist/activist…and look what happened to Princess Diana.
So, I’m thinking that something is wrong with the system. If we stopped believing that you can only be in love with one person at a time and that that time should last until death, maybe a lot of problems would vanish and broken hearts wouldn’t be so common. On the other hand, the free love of the 60s didn’t work out all that well, at all. It seems that love will attached itself to someone and then monogamy follows in its wake, at least for a little while.
I don’t have any answers I just know that people make promises they can’t always keep. Some mean what they say when they say it but there are those who never mean what they say at all.
Camelot fell because two people cheated on someone they both cared for and would have died for…at least Lancelot would have. So maybe passion is stronger than loyalty…stronger than anything, since we know how many lives it ruins. Passion is a strong and often destructive emotion. It plays with our ability to think, turns our hormones up, or down, and just laughs like crazy as it pushes people to destroy their own lives. Happens all the time, everyday, everywhere. Just one more thing that’s wrong with humans. One…more…thing.
I still wish that Frida would have stabbed Diego with the sharpened end of a paint brush. Maybe next time.