Have you ever noticed how boys don’t know much about fairy tales? They don’t have special clothing for the ball and no one locks them up in towers, or renders them unconscious. In fairy tales the boys make the choices, are the heroes, have all the power, money, castles and both parents. They chose, girls are chosen. Boys have freedom, girls are locked in towers/rooms, or they are in comas. Mothers are dead, stepmothers are evil, fathers don’t care and the girls are on their own. The girls are powerless, brutalized by everyone around them, unless they are dwarfs, or unless magical intervention suddenly appears in the form of a Goddessmother, a kiss by a powerful male who has the power to give life, rather than the girl who actually can produce life. We know what the girls look like, but there are no descriptions of the boys. No one knows what color lips, the prince has. We don’t know the color of his hair and we don’t know what he’s wearing. We think we do, because of the films but there are no descriptions in the books. Looks aren’t important for the heroes. A lot of the new films are much better but Cinderella, Snow and all the rest are very much alive and well.
Boys don’t bother with fairy tales. They have GI Joe’s and things that hunt and kill, fast cars, superheroes, sports figures and wrestlers. Boys have power. They are in training as well.
In school, if children are forced to read a “girls” book, the boys groan, moan and put their heads on their desks and never read the book. Girls, on the other hand, read books targeted for boys and get on with it. Training, conditioning and brainwashing.
Nothing changes as we grow up. The overwhelming majority of men don’t read books written by women. Men could learn a lot about women by reading feminist books, poetry, pretty much anything written by women, including, The Handmaid’s Tale. But they don’t. They don’t have to. They have power and they aren’t targets.
When you have all the power it doesn’t matter what the people who are NOT you, want, feel, care about, or need. It’s of no importance. Just remember that. Boys are trained from the beginning to not have anything to do with things that are female. They are called names that are related to girls/women, when others want to humiliate or control them. Because anything that has to do with us is bad.
I read books written by male authors, but only a select few. I used to read more, a long time ago, but I want to support women writers and besides, they are more likely to empower women, rather than calling them horrible names, murdering them and burying their bodies in the woods.
There are good books about equality, espionage and the like but I still read and support women. I want my money to go to them.